7 Things I’d Say to the Younger Me About “The Person [I] Really Need to Marry”

 

Maybe you are here because the title got you. Well, it got me too. I will break it to you gently, this is not your How To Spot Mr. Right guide but this piece is definitely very insightful you will thank yourself if you will be able to read through …

Tracy McMillan has a powerful message in this TEDx video about how we can be good at our job to “light up our corner of the world.”

  1. A total failure…That is one way to look at it but not the only way…

You may not be where you want to be right now. Life didn’t go as planned. You look at yourself and see the past relationships that didn’t work (no matter how great those guys were). Whether relationships or other aspects in life that went south, you can take over or hand over the wheel, take a detour or go another route. Map out those failures and transform them into road signs.

  1. Enter into a relationship with yourself and then you put a ring on it

Get to know yourself better. Love yourself right where you are, regardless of your size, color, hairstyle, etc. You can be your worst enemy but you can also be your best ally. Commit and be loyal to yourself if no one else will and especially when no one else will. Continue reading “7 Things I’d Say to the Younger Me About “The Person [I] Really Need to Marry””

Note to Self: Reminders on Coping with Loss

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It was a Tuesday.

As usual, past 6:00 pm, I had to call him to fetch me at work.

No answer.

Mama told me he’s playing basketball and that I have to go home on my own. I said yes.

After about thirty minutes or more, my phone rang. It was mama.

“Go to the hospital, papa was rushed.”

My heart stopped for a moment, my knees trembled.

I knew it was the day.  Continue reading “Note to Self: Reminders on Coping with Loss”

the gap and the value of talk

Unconsciously we begin to build a wall around us and we are becoming like an island, isolated and detached.

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I was too busy taking pictures I missed to laugh along.

In between spoonful of scrambled eggs and lines of a post I was reading online, I was also having a short conversation with my friends. Eating together has always been our favorite bonding time at home. I am sharing a two-bedroom apartment with five close friends. Busy schedules are keeping as apart during working days . This morning is one of the once or twice in a week opportunities for us to talk over a sumptuous meal. Then, I stumbled upon “The Forgotten Art of Simple Conversation” and it reminded me of one of the things I’ve been thinking about lately…

While the world has become flat because of communications technology, people are creating walls in between. While the World Wide Web connects east and west, people are moving away from each other like north and south. As Alanis Morissette puts it “isn’t it ironic?”

I took a second look on what just happened this morning, Continue reading “the gap and the value of talk”