7 Things I’d Say to the Younger Me About “The Person [I] Really Need to Marry”


Maybe you are here because the title got you. Well, it got me too. I will break it to you gently, this is not your How To Spot Mr. Right guide but this piece is definitely very insightful you will thank yourself if you will be able to read through …

Tracy McMillan has a powerful message in this TEDx video about how we can be good at our job to “light up our corner of the world.”

  1. A total failure…That is one way to look at it but not the only way…

You may not be where you want to be right now. Life didn’t go as planned. You look at yourself and see the past relationships that didn’t work (no matter how great those guys were). Whether relationships or other aspects in life that went south, you can take over or hand over the wheel, take a detour or go another route. Map out those failures and transform them into road signs.

  1. Enter into a relationship with yourself and then you put a ring on it

Get to know yourself better. Love yourself right where you are, regardless of your size, color, hairstyle, etc. You can be your worst enemy but you can also be your best ally. Commit and be loyal to yourself if no one else will and especially when no one else will. Continue reading “7 Things I’d Say to the Younger Me About “The Person [I] Really Need to Marry””


Note to Self: Reminders on Coping with Loss

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It was a Tuesday.

As usual, past 6:00 pm, I had to call him to fetch me at work.

No answer.

Mama told me he’s playing basketball and that I have to go home on my own. I said yes.

After about thirty minutes or more, my phone rang. It was mama.

“Go to the hospital, papa was rushed.”

My heart stopped for a moment, my knees trembled.

I knew it was the day.  Continue reading “Note to Self: Reminders on Coping with Loss”

Charleston Shooting: The Making of a Dylann Roof

While the US is facing yet another shooting incident, another debate on gun control, young-man-radicalized-on-internet trend, and a domestic terrorism against race, some 8,200 miles away, I sit reading articles and I wondered what is the suspect’s home like?

Four nights before the world celebrated Father’s Day, twelve members of the historical Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in South Carolina sat down in a group for a bible study, all of them African-American. A 21-year old white man entered, joined the group, then allegedly gunned down eight on the spot including Reverend Clementa Pinckney, a senior pastor and senator. One died in the hospital and the others survived. Witnesses, in a report, said they heard the suspect say some racist remarks including “I have to do it. You rape our women. You’re taking over our country. And you have to go.” The shooting was described as Continue reading “Charleston Shooting: The Making of a Dylann Roof”

NBA Finals 2015: Of Giants and Underdogs

They were giants in the field. One was out howling, his powers out in the open. The other one was trying to stay in tuned with a rhythm audible only to him. While the other one was atop a mountain, at a vantage point, he waited for his call.

I am not a sports analyst. Let me point that out first. I’m just a fan who has something to say. It was just another NBA season for some, but in it were stories. I am thrilled.

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It’s over. The Golden State Warriors emerged victorious over Cleveland Cavaliers with an eight-point lead in the recently concluded 2015 NBA Finals. Golden State Warriors bagged their first championship title in forty years and denied King James of winning the Bill Russell trophy.

Along with nearly 20 million plus viewers, I screamed and held my breath in every shot attempt from both sides, I cursed at Continue reading “NBA Finals 2015: Of Giants and Underdogs”

Why I Called Out Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyer

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Church Is Messy (and that's a good thing)

I have been preaching for 20 years.  Yesterday I did something that I have never done before in a sermon.  I publicly called out false teachers and named them by name.  I said,

If you listen to Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyer, if you take what they teach seriously, it will not be good for you.  It will be detrimental to your long-term growth as a follower of Jesus.

(You can watch the sermon by clicking here)

I used to think that their error was so blatantly obvious that they could just be ignored.  I was wrong.  They are massively growing in popularity in the evangelical world and are seen as credible and helpful.  Before I’m inundated with questioning emails I want to share why I distrust these two and think you should as well.  So, don’t shoot met–at least not yet.

This post will be long, very long.  And…

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